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10 Things To Never Text Your Ex

1. One-word texts. Don’t just text “Hey” or “Yo.” If you have something to say or ask, do so in your initial text. Get right to the point. Don’t put your ex in an awkward spot of trying to interpret why you’re contacting him/her. You don't want to be insulted when you are still hurting. do you?

2. Terms of endearment or flirty emoticons. You’re no longer a couple. Avoid using pet names or cute phrases that should be reserved for a relationship. You cannot keep the cute stuff post-breakup. Don't use love or kisses smileys when you know you don't mean them. You can be leading him/her on which is another sin on its own.

3. Resentful rants.
If you’re upset, tell a friend. Do not text hurtful things just because you’re tired/lonely/drunk and it’s easy to do so. Take the high road into singleness. Don't nag. Avoid calling him/her names.

4. “Why didn’t you text me back?” “Did you get my message?” Send one text. If he/she doesn't respond, accept that contact is likely not welcome yet. [why would you send the text anyway? after-all, he/she is your ex now and you need to move on]

5. Relationship talk. Don’t debrief or reminisce over text. Beyond an initial post-breakup debriefing, which should be done in person, all relationship lessons should be shared with friends and your journal, not the person who broke your heart. Avoid talking to him/her about how bad you feel about the breakup.

6. Booty-call requests. 
Booty call is defined as... a last-minute or previously unplanned request to meet up with someone with the intention of having sex (i.e. getting booty.) Some common characteristics of a booty call: the caller is intoxicated, the call occurs at night (often after bars have stopped serving alcohol,) the callee is an acquaintance or an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, and the sex involves no or little emotion.
Abbreviated, though rarely, BC. Examples are... James is Tanya's booty call. He called me at 3 a.m. last night for a booty call.

The "call" in "booty call" implies a telephone call, but other methods of requesting a get-together (e.g. phone text messaging) are also valid.
Never, ever a good idea.


7. “Thinking of you.” This isn't helpful. It’s predictable that recent exes will still be thinking of each other. But once you’re no longer in a relationship, your ex should no longer be privy to your thought life. Do things that would make you forget about him/her like taking a trip, shopping, learning a language or some form of extra-curricular activities. Meet new people, that way, he/she would truly be forgotten.

8. Sexy pics. Why send sexy pix. This wouldn't helpful either. I mentioned leading he/she on right? Here is it. How about you texting /sending pixs and you see them on the internet? or he/she comes back to you knowing fully well they can't stay with you / take advantage of your weakness? Think again.

9. Desperate apologies and pleading. Do not try to win back your ex by begging over text. This has never worked. He/She is gone. you need to accept that.

10. A second text, and then a third. Once you've accomplished what you needed to do — he agreed to give your belongings back on Thursday, for example — quit while you’re ahead. Be okay with being the one to end the text conversation.

When in doubt, don’t text your ex. Ever.

1 comment:

  1. Anonymous16:02

    That's so true, 9c one thanks. I hope women should take note.

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